Yes, you read that correctly.
It’s funny how the universe chooses to make things apparent; not to imply that I needed a pat on the back — but while chatting with a handsome gent into the wee hours of the night recently, it was interesting to how much was brought to the surface with just a few questions.
Answering a question, that yes, I do like to talk about the ‘uneasy’ conversation pieces. While my momma doesn’t always care for it, I will gladly take my little podium because I know I’m not the only person thinking this way…
Dating & relationships in 2017 is a monster; and not the cute ones at Disney — because you know I love those little guys. But dare I say it used to be easy — now it’s intertwined between which app you’re open to being on, how well your friends understand the kind of person you might be interested in, or even how often you go out… Monster. With no secret spots where you can scratch them behind the ear and make them settle down…
Now to ease your anticipation, I’m ‘guessing’ my singleness of five years gave me some genie-in-the-bottle knowledge. *is that a thing?! I don’t know, my brain is on Disney now* But being the riducuiolsy optimistic person I am (regardless of whether I’d like to be or not), I found some pros to kickin’ it on my own for the last few years.
you know you won’t settle. While that sounds a little selfish — being single gets you comfortable in your own skin and helps you become you. No settling for you; that would just be silly.
you know you’re worth it. No sugar coating: being single gets lonely. You miss hugs, and other stuff. You miss the simple act of telling someone good morning & good night. But you do gain a new confidence that secretes awesomeness … and you realize that you deserve someone who sees that too.
what makes you happy. A gimme…
you know what you want. Marriage? Kids? Open to kids from a previous relationship? Tattoos? Open to moving? The important stuff friends — not just tall, dark and handsome with a few tattoos & a great smile.
what you’re willing to sacrifice. And I repeat… moving? Trying long distance? Giving up a job or passion? Leaving your family? You get the point.
and must-haves. Yes, I said that. And no shame here! If you aren’t motivated or driven… Boy bye. *I couldn’t resist* I can blame my entrepreneurial mind, but that characteristic is something I love. Even as a driven individual, I need that push and want to see that they have passions too.
No, not ground breaking. But a gentle reminder you’re not alone. Make sure to take that time — learn yourself — learn what you want — learn what lights you up — learn what makes you smile. And never settle.